Comments on: Weekend hits and misses

By: Monica

Monica — Wed, 09 Nov 2016 17:43:34 +0000

I have yet to meet two people in a relationship where both of them are truly into planning. That must exist, and I would love to have a peek into how that kind of dynamic plays out when everyone is organized!

By: Ana

Ana — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 18:55:10 +0000

My other half is still pretty averse to planning. So I just plan in MY stuff around the have-to-do kid stuff, and if he doesn’t get his own stuff done, well…. He’s actually just much better than I am at going with the flow, and also sneaking in a work out or a work session whenever there is a free moments, whereas I need everything planned so I’m mentally prepared for it. So it works for both of us…kind of.

By: Rinna

Rinna — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 15:47:50 +0000

In reply to SHU.

@SHU – it totally depends on why you want another. For me, I just kept feeling – for years – that my family wasn’t complete. That feeling was worse than all of the baby/toddler phase issues – for me. Also, your older kids are still very, very young. My older three are 12, 10 and 7 (the youngest is 1.5). Believe me – early morning wakeups are a breeze compared to some of the preteen drama! In the grand scheme of life, that little kid phase goes by so quickly. Not trying to convince you either way – just saying that don’t focus too much on the toddler travails.

By: Rinna

Rinna — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 15:45:03 +0000

Oh, Laura, I like how you try to put a good spin on the toddler early wakeups (at least Wegmans was empty on a Sunday morning at 6:30 am!). Not to be giving un-asked for advice, but (a) have you tried one of those grow and glow clocks that change colour when it’s time to get up (i.e., you can’t call for mom or dad until then) and (b) is he still getting good naps every afternoon? A lack of daytime sleep sometimes causes early morning wakeups.

By: lauravanderkam

lauravanderkam — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 15:43:44 +0000

In reply to Kristen. @Kristen- very true. That's one reason I make sure to schedule in stuff I know I'll find fun into the weekend. Even when other things go wrong, I still get enough good stuff that I don't feel too sad.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 14:45:27 +0000

Oh man, I’d have felt super frustrating about the swim meet driving fiasco too. Yikes.

But it’s interesting to see that even in the midst of frustrations, there were good times too! Most things aren’t all good or all bad, I’m learning.

By: lauravanderkam

lauravanderkam — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 01:17:18 +0000

In reply to SHU.

@SHU – more kids means more moving parts, for sure. But in retrospect, a good solution would have been for me to take baby to flag football (my husband needed a nap after his 4/5 a.m. wake up) and then he would have taken all 4 kids to soccer (there is a playground there so the extra 2 kids who didn’t go would have been OK with it). Then I would have done my long run then, and we wouldn’t have had the horrible kerfuffle in the afternoon with the swim meet/long run/rushed trip to NJ.

By: omdg

omdg — Mon, 07 Nov 2016 23:01:12 +0000

In reply to SHU. LOL, I hear you Sarah. It does seem like a lot! I can't even imagine.

By: By

By — Mon, 07 Nov 2016 21:19:09 +0000

Oh, Laura. I’m sorry you had a rough weekend, but having had a rough one with my own toddler, it was both refreshing to hear someone being honest about it, and also good to read about your strategic discussion at the end of it all. (It’s hard to get my husband to sit down for those, too.)

By: SHU

SHU — Mon, 07 Nov 2016 20:04:45 +0000

As I waffle on the ‘to have or not to have’ decision like, hourly, posts like this one definitely make me lean towards . . .no! That said, I agree that more strategic babysitting might have helped 🙂

I am thankful that Josh is very open to my weekend micromanagement. In fact he embraces the ‘weekend email’ with open arms and asks me where it is if I don’t get to send it to him for some reason!