@Kt – that’s because I choose what to share on this blog… 🙂

@Anne – good for you on getting back down after all four of them! It’s coming off, it’s just slow. But as the weeks add up I start to see real progress, and that is motivational.

Here is my thought …. the issue with the princess cinderella concept is it teaches girls that it is more important to look pleasurable and attractive than to experience pleasure… we as women want to experience pleasure and be happy and teach that to our daughters… and the weight thing and exercise obsession often goes the other way.. to the extend that exercise helps your mental health and helps you be more productive or self actualize great.. to the extend that you do it to please others it is a slippery slope an anti-feminist… it is good to see that even you and even the most self actualized women struggle with this and it is important for us as women to support each other… for a good marraige for example… sex is more important for women than being skinny or having your nails done or having the perfect bikini wax.. if those things help women ok but we have to recognize and get away from anything that focuses on us pleasing others at our own expense… and take ours..
I thought it was interesting on the post on what to do in the morning that guys care about sex and coffee and women care about exercise and coffee.. and why is this? b/c men worry less about what they look like and more about what they feel and in being pleased.. this works in a sexual way but sometimes it also works in life… wearing tight clothes for a cocktail party — or get a FAJA – look them up online they come from colombia… or for an important business meeting is one thing.. or like a modern girdle.. but doing it every day isn’t pleasurable… it is done to please others…
It is important to exercise and not be fat.. but some of the SHAPE magazine US magazine rhetoric about how to be skinny in two weeks after having a baby is anti-women and anti mother … and focuses on us looking good for others rather than experiencing pleasure and happiness for ourselves and taking our piece as women..

I would much rather wear one size bigger than feel pudgy because my pants don’t fit during postpartum months 2-6. (That’s the last thing a postpartum woman needs!) So I’ve gotten ONE pair of pants in the bigger size after each baby. (And I’ve had 4, and I’ve returned to my pre-baby weight after each one.)

@Abby- I’ve been thinking about “small miseries” in the context of willpower (I recently read Tierney and Baumeister’s book on that topic). I’ve realized I have enough discipline to work on long term projects, run, nurse a baby and keep my temper with my occasionally petulant older children. But I do not have the discipline to do all that AND endure uncomfortable pants. So there. 🙂

@Twin Mom- yes, I’m nursing exclusively, so perhaps that is part of it, or at least I’d like to blame that! I was hungry at the beginning, but it’s getting better now. I think I also learned some bad habits with eating when I was nursing Sam (now 2). I started training for the marathon when he was 3 months old, and between that training and nursing I was literally starting every day with a 1000 calorie deficit. I ate whatever I wanted and still lost weight. For a variety of reasons though, I don’t think I want to tackle a marathon at the moment. So I need to work on the eating part.