Comments on: A tale of two bike rides https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/ Writer, Author, Speaker Tue, 17 Apr 2018 13:59:06 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 By: Monica https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/#comment-35077 Mon, 24 Jul 2017 15:42:09 +0000 http://lauravanderkam.staging.wpengine.com/?p=6769#comment-35077 I’m so sorry to hear that you would feel guilty over spending some time by yourself. I don’t have little ones, my stepdaughter is a teenager, but I am getting a PhD and I’m married as well. I learned a long time ago that if I wanted my household to run smoothly, I needed to get regular time away. If your husband can spend two hours away every week doing something he enjoys, maybe he can trade off kid duty with you some other time in the week so you can enjoy some time all to yourself. You deserve it. I know I’m a much better partner when I’m not holding in all the stress from life’s responsibilities. Good luck!!

]]> By: Kristanti https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/#comment-35076 Thu, 20 Jul 2017 16:41:42 +0000 http://lauravanderkam.staging.wpengine.com/?p=6769#comment-35076 I love that you are not at all apologetic/guilty for having a good time by yourself. With 3 kids and a PhD I don’t do anything by myself and feel guilty if I would have done so. I think perhaps men is less likely to feel that way. My husband obviously enjoy his two hours weekly bike ride with his biking group. We then finally bite the bullet and bought a baby bike seat and do a family ride for 3 hours last weekend. Obviously everyone was super tired at the end of the day but we still talked how fun it was until now. 😀

]]> By: lauravanderkam https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/#comment-35075 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 12:31:56 +0000 http://lauravanderkam.staging.wpengine.com/?p=6769#comment-35075 In reply to Omdg.

@Omdg – I guess, in the grand scheme of things, it’s not a bad thing to be sensitive in that area, right? Feeling nothing would probably be worse!

]]> By: Omdg https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/#comment-35074 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 09:57:14 +0000 http://lauravanderkam.staging.wpengine.com/?p=6769#comment-35074 The er…. “bike seat” problem was the main reason I quit doing triathlons. Even though I was riding a lot and had great shorts and tried a large number of different seat, I still couldn’t find s comfortable combo. Apparently pudendal neuropathy is a real thing. Biking sure is fun though!

]]> By: lauravanderkam https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/#comment-35073 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 23:48:58 +0000 http://lauravanderkam.staging.wpengine.com/?p=6769#comment-35073 In reply to Diana.

@Diana – that sounds like water aerobics (or at least strength training!) to me.

]]> By: Diana https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/#comment-35072 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 19:03:56 +0000 http://lauravanderkam.staging.wpengine.com/?p=6769#comment-35072 I had the same triathlon thought last week after a day that included running ~4 miles, biking ~5 miles and time in a pool…even if it was mostly just catching 30lb kids off the water slide!

]]> By: lauravanderkam https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/#comment-35071 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 17:00:49 +0000 http://lauravanderkam.staging.wpengine.com/?p=6769#comment-35071 In reply to Kristen | The Frugal Girl.

@Kristen – yep, I guess I’m just saddle-shy — not broken in yet!

]]> By: Kristen | The Frugal Girl https://lauravanderkam.com/2017/07/tale-two-bike-rides/#comment-35070 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 14:39:23 +0000 http://lauravanderkam.staging.wpengine.com/?p=6769#comment-35070 I find that in order to become comfortable on a bike seat, you have to have a good seat and good shorts, BUT you also have to log some consistent miles on the bike. Somehow, it gets more comfortable over time!

Random bike rides here and there leave me saddle sore, but I don’t have that problem if I bike consistently.

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