Comments on: Observations from a week spent mostly in bed

By: Cara

Cara — Sat, 27 Jan 2024 03:34:03 +0000

In reply to Cara.

Also should your kids or teenagers are teenagers really totally children shouldn’t they maybe given all you do be doing your laundry your kids without you having to ask them? Wanting you to get better immediately !! Do we as a society maybe not ask enough of children or teenagers and how do we do this maybe just say mommy is ill her laundry is now your problem children it must be done.
Wishing you speedy and easy recovery! That said it is worth maybe asking some of these questions because you are not the only woman in America who say has an injury or illness or pain and finds herself despite being married, with children and working and having staff, parents help still having to state hey …. please I need help here in sickness…

By: Cara

Cara — Sat, 27 Jan 2024 03:30:11 +0000

Should your husband do your laundry in this case without you asking or hire someone to do that ?
Would you do his if the roles were reversed ? Do men get better caregiving than women when sick in marriage?
I have seen with a few of my friends how if they get sick or have an injury they seem to still need to ask someone else to say get them dinner not their spouse or kids… and isn’t this part of marriage in sickness and in health… and also from man to woman not just woman to man?
Do we maybe give men more caregiving and expect mother never to have to need sick time…

By: Laura Vanderkam

Laura Vanderkam — Wed, 24 Jan 2024 13:12:40 +0000

In reply to Angela.

@Angela – oh dear – that sounds terrible! Yep, I was already doing all the stretches and they didn’t prevent this but I don’t think that means they’re a bad idea…I just don’t like the idea of my body being willing and capable of doing this to me again randomly. But it totally could.

By: Angela

Angela — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 18:21:54 +0000

I hope you get better soon. I flipped backwards on a slip and slide in July and have two compressed discs in my spine as a result. 6 months of PT and OMM and all the stretches which I know you were already doing!
Good thoughts for healing!

By: Laura Vanderkam

Laura Vanderkam — Mon, 22 Jan 2024 23:36:58 +0000

In reply to Lauren.

@Lauren – that sounds terrible! Wow – and I can’t imagine not being able to drive for 6 months – that would definitely make life more complicated around here (though thank goodness my son got his license right before this happened…). Yep, the tricky times are when planning comes in. I hope you have lots of great plans for when you are recovered!

By: Lauren

Lauren — Mon, 22 Jan 2024 18:41:45 +0000

I’m so sorry to hear you are in pain, and out of commission!
I had an accident before Christmas in which I fainted, hit my head and ended up in hospital for 4 days! I’m mostly recovered now but have been pleased that my coparent hasn’t shown his frustration as much as he’s probably feeling! Unfortunately Im not allowed to drive for 6 months too so that is making logistics tricky with 3 children and a husband who works away…
I have followed you for years and it’s tricky times like this where planning comes in:) I have found creating lots of future focused plans like trips away and days/evenings out has kept me sane while I watch a lot of TV recovering.. xx

By: Laura Vanderkam

Laura Vanderkam — Mon, 22 Jan 2024 15:47:30 +0000

In reply to Louise Jones.

@Louise – so sorry you had to deal with so much pain! I am sure my core could use some work..
Scones are incredible. The place where we went had great ones. I decided it was worth the downsides I get from dairy to have a fresh scone with a little clotted cream. Yum.

By: Louise Jones

Louise Jones — Mon, 22 Jan 2024 14:17:03 +0000

I also had piriformis syndrome and was in pain for about 12-18 months before I had a combination of steroids and anesthetics injected into my back. The pain went in 2 weeks and I was then able to do the PT required to stop the pain from returning once they wore off. I continue to be pain-free 2 years later – and do a lot of Pilates and core work. I hope you can find similar relief from this debilitating pain.
Loving your son’s enjoyment of an English high tea. I used to work for an English department store’s head office and we always stopped for tea and cake at 3pm. I ate far too many scones!

By: Laura Vanderkam

Laura Vanderkam — Sun, 21 Jan 2024 22:47:39 +0000

In reply to Erica.

@Erica – thank you! I am always grateful for energy – needed for the job description around here! It has been hard missing out. Here’s hoping that this next week is better.

By: Erica

Erica — Sun, 21 Jan 2024 22:25:08 +0000

I’m so sorry you’re in pain and missing out – hopefully you’ll continue to get the help you need to recover fully. You seem to have so much energy when you are not in pain (more than I do, certainly!) and maybe a small silver lining of this ordeal will be a renewed appreciation for physical health/strength when it returns.