Comments on: Finding time when there is no time (plus the TBT scorecard) https://lauravanderkam.com/2022/06/finding-time-when-there-is-no-time-plus-the-tbt-scorecard/ Writer, Author, Speaker Fri, 17 Jun 2022 20:59:52 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 By: Sam https://lauravanderkam.com/2022/06/finding-time-when-there-is-no-time-plus-the-tbt-scorecard/#comment-362174 Thu, 16 Jun 2022 18:01:50 +0000 https://lauravanderkam.com/?p=18614#comment-362174 I really relate to this. My life is packed. I do watch TV, but it’s usually ~2-3 shows a week with my husband, as part of evening family time. I do not watch any TV shows by myself. I read books instead.
About 2/3 weekends are completely booked (mainly because most of those booked weekends involve traveling out of town for the whole weekend: monthly camping trips with hubby for long weekends, two weddings this year (1 down, 1 to go), two corresponding bach festivity weekends to fun cities, visiting the parents next state over for Father’s Day weekend, two upcoming sailing trips to Catalina Island (I live in southern CA) a couple months apart…
I also volunteer one weekday afternoon per week, and I’m taking a semester class every Monday night on birds (for my birding hobby).
The weekends I am home, they are busy catching up on chores, life admin, and errands.

On the one hand, it’s wonderful to have a full life focused on my values, and centered around those I love. I feel like the majority of people need to take Laura’s “Plan it in, and do it anyway” advice seriously because they do not have too many things planned to look forward to…. on the other hand, the pendulum CAN swing too far in the other direction: I’m too booked, and so busy that I need to plan brunches with my girlfriends at least *2 months* out! I also REALLY want to visit a close family member who is just a 2-hour drive away, but it would involve setting aside an entire Saturday or Sunday and I have NONE to give her until August. Fun weekend plans and activities CAN get in the way of seeing people you love, even when those fun things do involve some of the people you care about.

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