parenting tips Archives - Laura Vanderkam https://lauravanderkam.com/tag/parenting-tips/ Writer, Author, Speaker Tue, 12 Nov 2024 14:35:04 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 https://lauravanderkam.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/cropped-site-icon-2-32x32.png parenting tips Archives - Laura Vanderkam https://lauravanderkam.com/tag/parenting-tips/ 32 32 145501903 Best of Both Worlds podcast: The kids are all right, with Gabrielle Blair https://lauravanderkam.com/2024/11/best-of-both-worlds-podcast-the-kids-are-all-right-with-gabrielle-blair/ https://lauravanderkam.com/2024/11/best-of-both-worlds-podcast-the-kids-are-all-right-with-gabrielle-blair/#comments Tue, 12 Nov 2024 14:35:04 +0000 https://lauravanderkam.com/?p=19800 Parenthood can be stressful, but some stress is (unnecessarily) chosen. That’s the message of today’s Best of Both Worlds podcast guest, Gabrielle Blair.

The longtime blogger behind Design Mom, Blair is also a mother of 6. In this episode, she shares with Sarah her perspective on worrying less, especially as kids grow up and make their own choices.

Then in the Q&A, we tackle a question from a listener who wonders if it’s true that you need to develop a child’s soccer talents as a toddler in order for the kid to play in high school. Do we wish we’d pushed kids more in activities?

Please give the episode a listen! As always, we welcome ratings and reviews. We also welcome folks to our Patreon community, where we discuss these topics in our very fun forum. Our next Zoom meet-up will be 11/26, when we’ll discuss all things holidays, and then we’ll have our annual goal-setting workshop in December. Membership is $9/month.

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Current life strategies https://lauravanderkam.com/2022/01/current-life-strategies/ https://lauravanderkam.com/2022/01/current-life-strategies/#comments Mon, 24 Jan 2022 18:11:36 +0000 https://lauravanderkam.com/?p=18406 We moved just shy of three weeks ago. The good news is that I finally found my pots and pans yesterday. The bad news is that some of them had been put away not entirely clean. They were then packed in that state, and three weeks had not improved the situation. Gross.

Over the weekend I did cross a major parenting milestone. The 2-year-old can now reliably sit and watch a video like Peppa Pig or the wide variety of YouTube offerings (“Hazel’s Mom” is a particular favorite). So when my husband took the 10-year-old and 7-year-old out for the afternoon, I left the little guy in the care of the two older boys while I went for a run in the neighborhood. He sat at the computer with the video on, and I had the 12-year-old sit in the same room with him (watching his phone), and basically neither moved for the 30 minutes I was gone. Success!

Speaking of the 2-year-old, he has been on a strike against napping in the crib. So over the weekend, I gave in and let him nap in my lap both days. In related news, my screen time totals on my iPhone are quite high…

I’ve been showering at night because it makes getting ready in the AM much faster. Unfortunately, I’m sometimes cold at night (though we’ve now set the bathroom heat to come on around my shower time). So I’ve come up with the strategy of hanging two towels over the shower door. When I turn the water off, I immediately wrap one around me. Then I can use the other for my hair without getting too shivery.

I also found my real towels this weekend, so I’m no longer using beach towels, though I did like that they were very large.

The 7-year-old recently celebrated a birthday. Since writing is a source of real tension, we had him record video thank yous to the people who gave him gifts. This inspired far less resistance.

We now have our “real” fridge and freezer, which is great, because we have more capacity. One current helpful life strategy is having set meals for certain nights. Wednesday, for instance, is always breakfast-for-dinner day. This tends to be pancakes, scrambled eggs, bacon, and fruit. Easy, and everyone eats it. Friday is pizza night. This will be make-your-own-pizza night again once we get our oven but for now I’m ordering in. We do Sunbasket kits on Monday and Tuesday (usually) as a way to have some variety. We often have steak one night over the weekend, which only leaves two days to sort out. In the morning, I almost always give kids toaster waffles plus fruit. (Some people add milk, or yogurt, and the occasional handful of chocolate chips). Most people have one toaster waffle, though my daughter has two. If you do the math this means we go through a normal box of toaster waffles in two days. This explains the appeal of Costco!

Photo: Ice on a trail from one of my weekend runs.

 

 

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