Comments on: A Day in the Life of a Power Mom https://lauravanderkam.com/2009/09/a-day-in-the-life-of-a-power-mom/ Writer, Author, Speaker Tue, 29 Sep 2009 03:39:28 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 By: Amanda https://lauravanderkam.com/2009/09/a-day-in-the-life-of-a-power-mom/#comment-18711 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 03:39:28 +0000 http://my168hours.com/?p=114#comment-18711 Hi Jeremy, how wild it is to talk about me in the 3rd person!

Perhaps you’re right – I’d bet a lot of people don’t want my life: I spend a large majority of it working. But the reality is I just love work — it’s full of excitement, brilliant teammates, positive thinkers and change makers.

I know my relationship with my husband could be stronger and more intimate, but we have a lot of together — we spend every weekend with our kids and friends, and since neither of us commutes, have until 9am every morning and post 4pm every day together. Your perception is a tad off in how dark my life seems and the relationships that I have.

For me, I have the 2 things I want most in my life right now, at this moment in time: To be there for my kids (I was raised by a single mom who was always working or dating – love her though) and to provide myself with the financial freedom I’ve dreamed of (again, very related to the above) — I really want to make the money myself. Part of freedom to me means never having to ask for permission.

So I appreciate your concern for my well being, and the “sell” of my article. I’m not claiming perfection. I am totally proud of myself for having the businesses that I have (soapbxx.com, dailyworth.com) AND the relationship with my kids. No, I’m not a stay at home (love my friends who are) but I am full of energy, confidence, enthusiasm and love when we I am with my kids, which is far more than my mom was ever with me.

No need to argue finer points. I just wanted to shed some light on your perception of far more darkness than I think exists over here.

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By: Jeremy https://lauravanderkam.com/2009/09/a-day-in-the-life-of-a-power-mom/#comment-18710 Tue, 15 Sep 2009 17:18:55 +0000 http://my168hours.com/?p=114#comment-18710 I hope you didn’t ignore the last paragraph in her post because it didn’t fit your thesis. This is a person with way-above-average ambitions for her work, and the health/relationship costs are significant (probably more than she knows):

“You have to take into consideration my manic, tightly-wound character. I’m more work-obsessed than your average mom. I love my companies and have very ambitious financial goals for myself (tens of millions, thank you). I don’t exercise. I’m generally not eating proper lunches (note above: no lunch break). I do experience exhaustion. I wish I had more time to just be with my husband.”

I suspect that her experience does not translate to people who want to have good/fun/strong marriages. They’ve perfected the childcare hand-off, don’t mind having other people take care of their children, and been willing to sacrifice health (exercise, eating, occasional sleep) to set up a very intense lifestyle that doesn’t sound that attractive to many of us.

These stories probably sell well, because they perpetuate the myth that we can have it all — you too, can be a great mom, successful businessperson, loving wife, attentive friend, creative soul and all the other things you aspire to. Except that nobody actually can succeed in all areas at once — maybe pick two out of that list to do well, and prepare to do the rest of it half-assed, if at all.

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