Comments on: My 9:30 p.m. bedtime, and other weekend revelations

By: Links I love – Modern Mrs Darcy

Links I love – Modern Mrs Darcy — Thu, 06 May 2021 21:10:05 +0000

[…] My 9:30 p.m. bedtime, and other weekend revelations. I appreciate hearing how real people structure their days. (I’m also going to bed earlier these days, and, related to Laura’s “I hate this but I need it right now” take.) […]

By: Maggie

Maggie — Fri, 30 Apr 2021 15:59:30 +0000

Wow, that’s some really early bedtimes. I sometimes can’t fall asleep that early despite being tired. I also find it hard to fall asleep when my partner is up late(r), somehow my brain can’t turn off but waits for someone to come in and “disturb” me. Once I’ve fallen asleep, I usually don’t wake up when he comes in, but my brain doesn’t seem to remember that and stays in an alert state, not going to sleep.

By: AdrianaGoyette

AdrianaGoyette — Wed, 28 Apr 2021 21:52:55 +0000

This is going to sound awful but I go to bed at 8:30pm, so I can wake up at 4:15am and be at my 5am work out class (at Orange Theory Fitness). I had the revelation that with a toddler that wakes up at 6:30 am, a full time job 8-5ish, and a teen that needs my help at night, my only time to work out is between 5 and 6:30 am.
It works really well for me and I feel much happier since I started doing it

By: Laura Vanderkam

Laura Vanderkam — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 19:38:48 +0000

In reply to Cathy. @Cathy- it was a long line! But I thought worth it. And I say that as someone who hates lines (it helped that I only had one child with me, and an older one at that).

By: Elisabeth

Elisabeth — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 16:02:44 +0000

I have an *ideal* bedtime of 10:30, but I regularly go to bed slightly earlier or later than that.

About once a week my husband will have a particularly late-evening call (finishing between 9:30-10:15); if it has been intense, he can need time to unwind. I’ve learned the hard way that falling asleep before he comes to bed just doesn’t work well for me, as I’ll often wake up when he comes in and be groggy but can’t get back to sleep.
On the weekends, we’re often both asleep by 9:30 PM! What adventurous lives one leads once one has children…

By: Cathy

Cathy — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 14:11:36 +0000

I’m glad you enjoyed Holland Ridge Farms. It’s about a 20 minute drive from my house and I went on Sunday afternoon. Gorgeous and a fun afternoon out. The line for Cousins was too long for me; I’m going to look for their various locations this summer.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 03:11:23 +0000

We try for 9:30 every night, but it only works occasionally. We have boys (ages 9-14) so all older, but my 14yr old has to be at school at 6am 4 days a week. So half the house is up by 5:30 and everyone else by 6:30. I know kids all have varying sleep needs, but I try really hard to make sure my teen can usually get 8 hours. I really don’t prefer early bedtimes though!

By: Sophie

Sophie — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 01:29:26 +0000

With a 5 month old and a 3 year old, who both wake during the night, My bedtime is also 9.30 right now, and I’m usually up with the kids by 6.30 am. I try to get both kids asleep by 8.30 so I get an hour of adult time before bed, to read or write or spend with my husband. Sometimes I find it annoying to have to spend so many hours in bed to piece together 7.5 hours of sleep, but I know it will only improve over time, and sleep has to be the priority right now. I agree using my one hour in the evening and time on the weekend for high quality leisure is the key to feeling good about the current life setup. And i remind myself it’s just a season. Sounds like you’ve got a good balance to me 🙂

By: Kathy A Johnson

Kathy A Johnson — Mon, 26 Apr 2021 18:49:11 +0000

My husband gets up at 5 to head to work by around 6, and once he’s up (and so is the dog) it’s hard for me to go back to sleep. So I’ve been going to sleep around 9-9:30 most nights in order to get enough sleep. We both love to read, so we often get in bed to read by 8:30, and while this sounds peaceful and happy, I really don’t like it! I don’t like going to bed so early and I certainly don’t like to get up that early, but I’m hoping this schedule won’t last forever (or even until he retires in 9 years or so). I try to use the morning hours well, because by mid afternoon, I am dragging. Like right now…

By: Lori C

Lori C — Mon, 26 Apr 2021 16:54:24 +0000

I am going to bed between 8:30 and 9:30 for the most part. But I’m pregnant, so I also recognize the seasonality of this phase and I try to savor the 9 hours+ of sleep I am getting, because in about 115 days that will drastically change!